Source - TIKTOK
Κυριακή 23 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Σάββατο 22 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Preach brother...
A man's word means nothing, anymore.
They will say anything just to say it and mean absolutely nothing by it at the same time.
They are completely unreliable. Their words are just random vocalisations or scripts they think will sound/look appealing and/or impressive to you for the amount of time they plan on benefiting from your presence in their life. They mostly lack the character to be who they say they are.
Synaptic Bloom
I told you I am not like the others.
I was always pure...
Always...
And, sadly...
You never will.
Nor should anybody have to...
Something Important
Omg...
This speaks to my very soul!
To me NOTHING is linear!
Everything connects to something else!
Always!
I've talked about it so many times in the past in the shows I did with my internet radio show...
In my experience it requires a lot of discipline to express things in a linear fashion when communicating with other people who do not understand how interconnected everything is !
In the beginning I thought my delivery was poor but now I understand that neurodivergent people see and interpret the world in a completely different way to neurotypicals.
I get it now.
Παρασκευή 21 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Synaptic Bloom
Παρατηρούσα ένα πουλάκι
Να στέκεται χωρίς φόβο για τις γάτες
Στο κάλυμμα μιας καμινάδας της απέναντι πολυκατοικίας
Και σκέφτηκα ότι και τα σπίτια είναι δέντρα
Είναι δέντρα
Έχουν θεμέλια για ρίζες
Ορόφους για κλαδιά
Ανθρώπινες ιστορίες αντί για τραγουδίσματα πουλιών
Τοίχους αντί για φωλιές
Κι αλλάζουνε ενοίκους
Εμείς φεύγουμε κι αυτά μένουν
Synaptic Bloom
Ψάχνω να βρω τρόπους να επιστρέψω στη ζωή
Εκείνη των ζωντανών
Τη δική μου, υποτίθεται
Που θα είναι άλλη
Αλλαγή ολοκληρωτική βράζει μέσα μου
Έχει ήδη συμβεί κι ας μην συμβαίνει τίποτα φαινομενικά
Όμως δε θέλω να βγω από τα τείχη ακόμα
Κάνω σχέδια για τον εαυτό μου
Στην ησυχία
Παίρνω το χρόνο μου
Προετοιμάζω, ενημερώνομαι, αναλύω, αποφασίζω
Μετράω αντίστροφα
Ζυγίζω το υγρό, καυτό κουράγιο μου
Τι είναι εκείνο που αντέχω;
Πόσο αντέχω να διαπραγματευτώ;
Που βρίσκονται τα πραγματικά μου όρια;
Πως θα σεβαστώ και θα προστατέψω το νευρικό μου σύστημα μέσα στο χάος που θυμάμαι;
Είμαι σχεδόν εκεί
Ξαναγεννιέμαι
Όταν έρθει η στιγμή
Πόνος και γέννα
Αν όλα πάνε καλά
Θα επιστρέψω στον κόσμο αλλιώς
Αν όχι
Θα ζήσω και θα πεθάνω
Πίσω από αυτά τα τείχη
Μαζι με τις παλιές μου ιστορίες.
Είναι 50/50
Ακροβατώ στην κόψη
Οτι κι αν συμβεί όμως από τα δύο, είμαι εξίσου εντάξει
Τελικά
Αυτός ο κύκλος είναι νέος έτσι κι αλλιώς
Είμαι εγώ αλλά άλλη
Ίδια μάτια, άλλο βλέμμα
Όλα όσα συνέβησαν πέρασαν από μέσα μου αληθινά
Άφησαν όλα τα σημάδια τους
Κι έτσι δεν είμαι πια εγώ
Πίσω από αυτά τα τείχη
Είμαι κάτι άλλο, πιο περίπλοκο και πιο ευθύ
Πιο βαθύ
Και με τη γνώση πως είμαι κάτι παράταιρο
Κάτι μόνο του
Σκέφτομαι να προσπαθήσω μια ακόμα φορά
Να φέρω το μαγικό μου κόσμο
Στη ζωή
Καθαρή τρέλα, δηλαδή
Ίσως και αποστολή αυτοκτονίας...
Αν προχωρήσω, θα μάθουμε...
Κι αν δεν προχωρήσω, νιώθω και πάλι εντάξει με τον εαυτό μου
Γιατί σε αυτή τη ζωή έχω ξεπληρώσει
Δε χρωστάω τίποτα και σε κανέναν.
Ούτε επίδειξη κουράγιου, ούτε κάποια απόδειξη.
Είμαι αυτή που είμαι.
Αυτή που επέζησε.
Ό,τι κάνω, πρέπει να μου δίνει χαρά ή να μου απαντά σε κάποια προσωπική απορία...
Τα υπόλοιπα δε με αφορούν.
Ξεχρέωσα.
(και με το παραπάνω)
Τετάρτη 19 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Something Meaningful
Bob Marley was once asked if there was a perfect woman.
He replies:
“Who cares about perfection?
Even the moon is not perfect, it is full of craters.
The sea is incredibly beautiful, but salty and dark in the depths.
The sky is always infinite, but often cloudy.
So, everything that is beautiful isn't perfect, it's special.
Therefore, every woman can be special to someone.
Stop being "perfect." Try to be free and live, doing what you love, not wanting to impress others."
Something True
True love is not just an emotion; it is a steady and unwavering commitment. It does not waver in hardships or fade with time. Instead, it deepens, strengthens, and endures.
It is the quiet understanding in a world full of noise, the hand that holds on when everything else falls apart.
True love is choosing the same soul again and again, not out of convenience, but because the heart knows no other home.
It is found in patience, forgiveness, and the everyday choices to support and cherish one another.
True love is not about finding perfection but embracing imperfection with a love that never gives up.
— Grow up ©
[Artist: Dorian Costras - yin-yang]
Something Meaningful
Source - TIKTOK
Ps. Sometimes people get fat, as part of a genius strategy to keep the a$$***$ away.
It's like watching the trash taking itself out.
It works ✨flawlessly✨.
Something True
Before you get married..
discuss bills, parenting styles, credit, debt, religion,
how to deal with family, what beliefs will be instilled in your children, childhood traumas, sexual expectations, financial expectations, family health history,
mental health history, bucket list, dream home, careers and education, political views and whatever comes to mind.
Love alone isn’t enough.
Ps. That is why some people prefer to only have casual relationships instead of deep, true ones. They subconsciously know that they require the kind of inner work they want to avoid at all costs.
Τρίτη 18 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Dream Journal
Απλώς κρατάω σημειώσεις...
Φλώρινα...
Κάτι για τη Φλώρινα
Επαναλαμβανόμενα...
Ποιος ξέρει...
Κι έπειτα ξύπνησα.
Δεν έχω πάει ποτέ στη Φλώρινα...
Αναρωτιέμαι αν ήταν "Φλώρινα" ή "Florida" ...
Χμ... Δεν είμαι πολύ σίγουρη...
🧐🤔🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
Αν κάποιος έψαχνε κάποια επιβεβαίωση από το σύμπαν για κάτι...
Here you go!
Δευτέρα 17 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Something Precious
This TikTok account, heals my inner child...🥹
"We do the best we can with what we've got..." 🫂
For educational purposes : Απλά Μην Το ξανακάνεις στις επόμενες σχέσεις σου.
Γιατί το ghosting είναι ένδειξη επιθετικότητας:
Οι αποχαιρετισμοί είναι αναπόφευκτοι. Το να πληγώνεις τους άλλους όμως όχι.
Η ζωή μας είναι πάντα σε συνεχή ροή. Η κάθε νέα μέρα μας παρουσιάζει προκλήσεις που απαιτούν ωριμότητα, προσαρμοστικότητα και ευελιξία. Το ίδιο συμβαίνει και στις διαπροσωπικές σχέσεις. Αλλάζουν, εξελίσσονται και ενδεχομένως φτάνουν σε ένα τέλμα. Ο έρωτας ξεφτίζει, φιλίες ξεπερνιούνται, μια απασχόληση δίνει την θέση της σε μια άλλη και ο θάνατος είναι αναπόφευκτος. Αρκετοί άνθρωποι όμως, δεν ξέρουν τον τρόπο να πουν αντίο.
Είναι λογικό μια αλλαγή, μια μετάβαση να μας κάνει να αισθανόμαστε άβολα. Έχουμε πολλούς τρόπους άμυνας για να προστατεύουμε τον συναισθηματικό μας κόσμο, αλλά η αποφυγή είναι ο επικρατέστερος. Το τέλος μιας σχέσης σπανίως είναι εύκολο. Είναι συναισθηματικά μια από τις εντονότερες καταστάσεις. Δεν υπάρχει εύκολος τρόπος να λήξει μία σχέση. Όταν συνδυάζεται με σύγκρουση, η μετάβαση προκαλεί οργή, θλίψη και μελαγχολία. Έτσι εξηγείται ότι προσπαθούμε να ξεμπερδέψουμε γρήγορα με το τέλος μιας σχέσης, να αποφύγουμε τον τελικό αποχαιρετισμό και όλα αυτά για να ελαχιστοποιήσουμε την αναστάτωση. Παρ΄ όλα αυτά, κάθε τέλος αντιπροσωπεύει ένα σημείο καμπής.
Το να αποφεύγεις την συναισθηματική αναστάτωση από το τέλος μιας σχέσης οδηγεί σε μια ανθυγιεινή συνήθεια ημιτελών σχέσεων. Σχέσεις που λύθηκαν πρόχειρα μας κρατούν στο παρελθόν, αφήνουν ίχνη θλίψης, οργής, σύγχυσης και ενοχής, ενώ σχέσεις που τελείωσαν με κάποια εξήγηση μας επιτρέπουν να αγκαλιάσουμε με αυτοπεποίθηση τα νέα ξεκινήματα. Οι θετικές μεταβάσεις λειτουργούν προς όφελός μας και μας δείχνουν τον δρόμο της ωρίμανσης.
Μελέτες δείχνουν ότι το τέλος μιας σχέσης είναι αυτό που θυμόμαστε πιο έντονα από μία σχέση που τελείωσε, λόγω του ότι είναι και το τελευταίο χρονικά γεγονός που την αφορά. Οι τελευταίες κουβέντες, συναισθήματα ή συζητήσεις δημιουργούν την πιο δυνατή ανάμνηση. (Fredrikson, 2000). Οι αποχαιρετισμοί είναι μια ευκαιρία να περιγράψουμε με λέξεις τα συναισθήματά μας, να σχηματοποιήσουμε την ανάμνηση μιας σχέσης και να αισθανθούμε ότι κάτι ολοκληρώθηκε. Οι Schwörer, Krott και Oettingen (2020) αναφέρονται στις σχέσεις που χαρακτηρίζονται από την αίσθηση του κλεισίματος, ως «ολοκληρωμένες». Γενικότερα οι άνθρωποι θεωρούν το τέλος μιας σχέσης ως μια πλήρωση, όταν αισθάνονται ότι έκαναν ό,τι καλύτερο μπορούσαν, ότι προσπάθησαν όσο περισσότερο μπορούσαν και ότι δεν θα μπορούσε να γίνει κάτι άλλο. Σχέσεις που λήγουν με τέτοιο τρόπο αφήνουν θετικό αντίκτυπο, περιορισμένη θλίψη και μια εποικοδομητική μετάβαση στην επόμενη φάση της ζωής, όπου κάποιος δεν μπαίνει στον πειρασμό να σκεφτεί υποθετικά σχετικά με το τι θα μπορούσε να είχε πει ή κάνει.
Αρκετές σχέσεις είναι εξ ορισμού σύντομες, αλλά ακόμα και οι σύντομες πλατωνικές σχέσεις ή οι επαγγελματικές σχέσεις είναι διαπροσωπικές σχέσεις που φέρουν ένα συναισθηματικό φορτίο.
Δεν είναι ανάγκη να εμμένουμε σε σχέσεις που δεν λειτουργούν για εμάς. Είναι φυσικό να φεύγουμε από κάποιες σχέσεις, αλλά το γεγονός ότι μια σχέση δεν λειτουργεί για εμάς, δεν σημαίνει ότι δεν υπήρξε σημαντική. Οι άνθρωποι και οι διαπροσωπικές σχέσεις αφήνουν ίχνη, αναμνήσεις από μια σύνδεση. Ένας θετικός αποχωρισμός τιμάει την σχέση, δείχνει σεβασμό σε αυτήν και αναγνωρίζει την επίδραση που ένα πρόσωπο έχει στην ζωή μας καθώς και τις διάφορες διακυμάνσεις που είχε αυτή η σχέση.
Ghosting
Το “ghosting” (πλήρης αποκλεισμός χωρίς εξήγηση) είναι ένα είδος επιθετικής αντιμετώπισης, όπου κάποιος ξαφνικά σταματάει κάθε είδους επικοινωνία με κάποιο άλλο πρόσωπο χωρίς κάποιον προφανή λόγο, χωρίς κάποια προειδοποίηση ή εξήγηση και αγνοεί κάθε προσπάθεια για περαιτέρω επαφή.
Το “ghosting” συχνά είναι μια πρακτική που χρησιμοποιεί κάποιος που θέλει να αποφύγει την σύγκρουση αλλά ουσιαστικά είναι μια καταστροφική κίνηση, η οποία γεννάει συναισθήματα σύγχυσης, αμηχανίας και ταπείνωσης στο άτομο που την βιώνει.
Συναισθηματικά, το να δεχθείς “ghosting” προκαλεί μια αίσθηση ευαλωτότητας, αμφισβήτησης και οδηγεί σε χαμηλό επίπεδο αυτοεκτίμησης. Σε ψυχοσωματικό επίπεδο το ghosting εξαντλεί τους νευροδιαβιβαστές, ενεργοποιεί τις πληγές εγκατάλειψης και απόρριψης και τα ίδια νευρολογικά κέντρα που ενεργοποιούνται όταν νιώθουμε φυσικό πόνο (Krossa et al., 2011). Το να κάνουμε ghosting σε κάποιον είναι μια συνειδητή εγωκεντρική απόφαση να αποφύγουμε μια κατάσταση με έναν τρόπο που θα προκαλέσει τραύμα και ντροπή, ενώ ο άλλος μένει άναυδος. Έτσι, το ghosting είναι ουσιαστικά μια πράξη ναρκισσιστική, μια πράξη απόρριψης του άλλου χωρίς ενσυναίσθηση, αγνοώντας παντελώς τα αισθήματα και τις ανάγκες του. Επιπλέον, το ghosting αποκλείει την αναγνώριση ότι ένας αποχαιρετισμός είναι αυτό που θέλει το άλλο πρόσωπο, ρίχνοντας την ευθύνη στις περιστάσεις ή στο άλλο πρόσωπο. Διαστρεβλώνει την πραγματικότητα επιτρέποντας στο άτομο που ενεργεί με αυτό τον τρόπο να απεκδυθεί κάθε ευθύνη για την συμπεριφορά του.
Υγιείς αποχαιρετισμοί
Σε κανέναν δεν αρέσει μία άβολη συζήτηση, αλλά αυτό είναι προϋπόθεση για την διατήρηση μιας υγιούς σχέσης. Το να γίνει ένας διάλογος είναι σημαντικό γιατί έτσι και τα δύο μέρη έχουν την ευκαιρία να εκφράσουν τις απόψεις τους και να νιώσουν ότι ακούγονται. Το να ακούει ο ένας τον άλλον δείχνει σεβασμό για τα αισθήματα του άλλου, αφήνει χώρο για ειλικρινή περισυλλογή και για το φυσικό τέλος μιας σχέσης. Πρέπει να γίνει κατανοητό και από τα δύο μέρη, ότι παρότι είναι καιρός να πάνε και τα δύο μέρη παρακάτω στην ζωή, και τα δύο μέρη αναγνωρίζουν τον κοινό χρόνο και τα ανθρώπινα συναισθήματα τους.
Αναλαμβάνοντας την ευθύνη να πούμε ένα ταπεινό αντίο, κάνουμε τον κόσμο μας λίγο καλύτερο. Αποδεχόμενοι συνειδητά ότι ο τρόπος που λέμε αντίο είναι ένα σημαντικό μέρος της δημιουργίας μιας κοινωνίας με συνέχεια, προχωράμε με συμπόνια, δίνοντας χώρο στην ενεργητική ακρόαση και μια βάση για βαθύτερες μελλοντικές σχέσεις.
Πάντα έχουμε επιλογές στον τρόπο που χειριζόμαστε τις μεταβάσεις. Ο τρόπος που βγαίνουμε από μία σχέση αφήνει σημάδια τα οποία λειτουργούν αθροιστικά. Το να τιμάς το τέλος μιας σχέσης, το να παίρνεις την ευθύνη με πράξεις που προάγουν την αμοιβαία επούλωση, καλλιεργεί σθένος. Το να διαχειριζόμαστε τις μεταβάσεις προσεκτικά και με σεβασμό, ενισχύει την θετική ανάπτυξη του χαρακτήρα μας, τις αντοχές μας, την αποτελεσματικότητά και την ικανότητα μας να χτίσουμε υγιείς μελλοντικές διαπροσωπικές σχέσεις.
Βιβλιογραφικές αναφορές
Fredrickson, B. L. (2000). Extracting meaning from past affective experiences: The im-portance of peaks, ends, and specific emotions. Cognition & Emotion, 14(4), 577–606. https://doi.org/10.1080/026999300402808
Krossa, E., Bermana, M., Mischelb, W., Edward E. Smith, and Wager, T. (2011). Social rejec-tion shares somatosensory representations with physical pain. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS), 108 (15), 6270–6275, doi: 10.1073/pnas.1102693108.
Schwörer, B., Krott, N. R., & Oettingen, G. (2020). Saying goodbye and saying it well: Conse-quences of a (not) well-rounded ending. Motivation Science, 6 (1), 21–33. https://doi.org/10.1037/mot0000126
Πηγή: psychologytoday.com
Συγγραφέας: Leigh W. Jerome Ph.D.
Μετάφραση: Μαρία Μαγγανάρη
MSc in Person – Centred Counseling and Psychotherapy
Person – Centred Family and Couples Therapy
P.E.T., T.E.T., M.B.A.
mariamanganari.gr
Κυριακή 16 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Πέμπτη 13 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Something True
"I gave you my love, my trust, my whole heart,
Believing we were building something real, something unbreakable.
I stood by you through storms, through struggles,
But in the end, it was you who shattered us.
I told you I was hurting,
Showed you the wounds only you could heal,
But instead of holding me closer,
You made me feel like I was the problem.
You knew my fears, my insecurities,
And still, you made choices that cut me the deepest.
While I fought for us,
You gave pieces of yourself to someone else.
Now I stand here, exposed to the world,
Painted as the woman who should just “move on.”
They say I’m dramatic, that I should forgive,
That love means looking past the pain.
But where was love when I needed honesty?
Where was love when I was crying myself to sleep?
Where was love when you looked into my eyes
And still chose to betray me?
Now you’ll say I’m playing the victim,
That I’m making you the villain.
But the truth is...I was never acting.
I was just a woman who loved too much,
And you're the man who didn’t know how to love me back."
Epiphanies ✨
Now wait a damn minute!
Cause I just realized this...
.
.
.
.
.
.
You were never ready for me...
Δευτέρα 10 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Something True
“I didn't let go of you, because I was afraid that no one would love me like you did.
Until one day I understood that, if they are going to love me like you, I better stay alone."
~Frida Kahlo~ 🦋
Κυριακή 9 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Παρασκευή 7 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Letters to AP
Σκληραίνω μέσα μου για να επιβιώσω
Κι εκεί που το κατακτώ και νιώθω δυνατή
Βλέπω γύρω μου πράγματα που συμβαίνουν και
Σκέφτομαι πως αν πάθαινες ποτέ τίποτα εσύ
Θα πέθαινα την ίδια στιγμή
Νιώθω κουρέλι και μόνο στη σκέψη
Διαλύομαι!!!
...
Βλάκα... Βλάκα...!!!
Είσαι τόσο βλάκας...!!!
Τίποτα δεν κατάλαβες...
Τίποτα...
Να προσέχεις τον εαυτό σου...
Σε παρακαλώ...
Και ας μη σε ξαναδώ μπροστά μου ποτέ
Δεν πειράζει
Τι να γίνει
Αυτό θες.
Ορίστε λοιπόν.
Μου τη δίνει που με νοιάζει.
Ήθελα να είμαι σαν όλες αυτές τις μυστήριες που σου αρέσουν μα είμαι δυστυχώς βλαμμένη και με νοιάζει
Κακώς βρίζω εσένα
Εγώ είμαι η χαζή
...
Τέλοσπάντων.
Κάθομαι και κλαίω σα χαζή, λοιπόν, μια απλή, συνηθισμένη Παρασκευή για κάτι που φοβάμαι, χωρίς να συμβαίνει, και θα αρχίσεις πάλι να με κράζεις μέσα σου και να με χαρακτηριζεις γιατί δεν έχεις καταλάβει τίποτα τόσα χρόνια...
Χαμπάρι δεν πήρες...
Κι ούτε θα καταλάβεις και ποτέ.
Ο άντρας εκεί που δεν αγαπά δε χαμπαριάζει τίποτα...
Αυτό ήταν....
Δυστυχώς...
Something True
"A man with unhealed childhood trauma becomes the "nice guy" who is either defensive or shut down in his relationships with women. You see, this is why most women appear drained, exhausted, and empty.
Dear man,
The truth is, your unhealed pain can silently shape the dynamics of your relationships. While you might strive to be the perfect partner, your defenses can build walls that make it difficult for those you love to truly reach you. When you shut down, you unintentionally shut out the very love and connection that could heal both you and her.
Understand that when you avoid facing your inner wounds, you allow them to dictate how you interact with others. This isn’t because you don’t care; it's because your emotional armor is still intact, and it's preventing you from truly being present. Women can sense this absence, and it often leaves them feeling isolated, even when you’re physically there.
It's important to realize that this isn't about blaming you. You may have been taught to suppress your feelings, to “man up” and put on a brave face. But holding it all in doesn’t make you stronger—it makes you fragile. Your unresolved trauma can manifest as defensiveness, as a reluctance to trust or open up fully. Over time, this behavior starts to drain the people around you, especially the woman who longs for your vulnerability and presence.
Her exhaustion isn’t just physical; it’s emotional. She’s carrying the weight of trying to reach you, to understand you, while you silently suffer inside. Every time you withdraw, she’s left to wonder if she’s doing something wrong. This cycle can lead to confusion and emotional depletion on both sides.
What you don’t realize is that your pain doesn’t have to define your relationships. You don’t have to stay in the role of the nice guy who retreats into himself when the pressure mounts. Healing requires courage—the courage to face the past, to confront the emotions you’ve been avoiding. It means allowing yourself to feel, to express, and to be real with the one you love.
She wants to see the real you, the raw, unguarded version of you. The man who is willing to heal, to be vulnerable, and to embrace the power of emotional intimacy. When you do this, you not only give her the love she deserves but also create space for your own healing. It’s a beautiful cycle of mutual support and understanding that can transform both of you.
The journey to healing isn’t easy, but it’s one that’s worth taking. Start small—acknowledge your feelings, take responsibility for your triggers, and seek the support you need. Surround yourself with people who encourage your growth, and most importantly, allow yourself the grace to heal at your own pace.
As you heal, you’ll find that your relationships become more fulfilling. No longer will you have to hide behind a facade of being the "nice guy." Instead, you’ll be the man who is strong because he is whole, a man who gives love freely because he has learned to give it to himself first.
Dear man, this is your time to stop running from the very thing that holds the power to set you free. Let go of the past, open your heart, and let the healing begin. It won’t happen overnight, but with each step forward, you’ll become more of the man you were always meant to be.
Embrace the vulnerability, and watch how it transforms not just your relationships but your entire life. You have the strength to heal, and in doing so, you can bring healing to the woman you love."
Πέμπτη 6 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Something True
"Love isn’t just about the easy moments. It’s about what happens when we face ourselves—when a relationship becomes a mirror, reflecting both our light and our shadows.
Real connection isn’t just about romance, it’s about resilience. It’s about standing in front of that mirror and being willing to see all of ourselves—the parts we love, the parts we hide, the parts that still need healing. It’s about choosing to grow rather than run, to lean in rather than shut down.
The strongest relationships aren’t the ones without challenges—they’re the ones where both people are willing to do the work. To hold space for the discomfort. To stretch into new versions of themselves. To recognize that the friction isn’t a sign of failure, but an invitation to evolve.
We don’t meet people by accident. Some come to show us where we still have work to do. Some stay to walk beside us through the fire. And some challenge us in ways that break us open—only to rebuild us into something stronger, freer, more whole.
Resilience in love isn’t about never struggling. It’s about who you become through the struggle. It’s about finding the courage to meet yourself in the mirror, knowing that on the other side of growth is a love—whether with another or within yourself—that is deeper, truer, and more aligned than ever before."
Something Blue
TRAITS OF MEN WHO ARE SIMPLY INCAPABLE OF LOVE.
A man who is incapable of love isn’t just someone who struggles with expressing emotions—he fundamentally lacks the ability (or willingness) to form deep, meaningful connections. His behaviors, mindset, and emotional responses (or lack thereof) make it nearly impossible for him to engage in a healthy, loving relationship. Below is a more in-depth breakdown of the key traits:
1. Emotional Unavailability
He keeps a distance from anything that requires emotional depth. Conversations about feelings, fears, and dreams are avoided, shut down, or dismissed as unimportant. He might be physically present in a relationship but emotionally absent, making it feel like you’re dating a stranger.
2. Lack of Empathy
He struggles to genuinely care about others' emotions. If you're hurt or upset, he may seem indifferent, annoyed, or even blame you for feeling that way. He can't (or won’t) put himself in your shoes, which makes emotional support nearly impossible.
3. Self-Centeredness
Everything revolves around him—his needs, desires, and priorities come first. He may expect you to accommodate him while making little to no effort to reciprocate. In conversations, he steers the focus back to himself, showing little interest in your thoughts or experiences.
4. Fear of Vulnerability
Love requires vulnerability, but he sees vulnerability as weakness. He builds walls, avoids deep emotional exposure, and resists getting too close. If you try to open up, he may mock you, dismiss your feelings, or quickly change the subject.
5. Inability to Commit
He avoids defining relationships, resists long-term commitment, or finds excuses to keep things casual. Even if he enters a relationship, he may refuse to take real steps forward—avoiding discussions of the future, marriage, or deeper emotional bonding.
6. Manipulative Behavior
Rather than forming healthy emotional bonds, he may use manipulation to maintain control. This could include gaslighting (making you question your reality), guilt-tripping, or playing mind games. Instead of mutual love, the relationship becomes about power and control.
7. History of Shallow Relationships
His romantic past may be filled with short-lived flings, one-sided relationships, or partners who complain about his coldness. He may not have deep friendships either, preferring casual acquaintances over genuine connections.
8. Avoidance of Accountability
He refuses to acknowledge his flaws, mistakes, or wrongdoings. If confronted, he may shift blame, make excuses, or act as if the issue doesn’t exist. This makes conflict resolution nearly impossible because he never truly takes responsibility.
9. Lack of Passion or Affection
He may rarely (or never) show physical affection unless it benefits him. Kissing, hugging, or expressing love feels forced or transactional. The relationship lacks emotional warmth and chemistry, making it feel empty and mechanical.
10. Indifference to a Partner’s Happiness
Your happiness—or lack thereof—has no real impact on him. He may dismiss your sadness, ignore your needs, or even take pleasure in knowing you’re emotionally invested while he remains detached.
What Does This Mean for a Relationship?
Being with someone incapable of love leads to feelings of loneliness, confusion, and emotional exhaustion. No matter how much effort you put in, it always feels one-sided. Over time, it can damage self-worth and create a cycle of seeking validation from someone who will never provide it.
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Something Blue
"I see you...
The ones who can’t sleep at night because our soul doesn’t know peace. The ones who look for the beauty in darkness because it’s all we have.
I see you, the ones who struggle to wake up and fight each day. The ones who have more bad days than good under their belt. I see you still getting up and trying, even if every ounce of you internally wants to quit.
I see you, fantasizing over the fairy tale, even if life has given you the exact opposite. I see you never losing hope. The hopeless romantics, the empaths, the fighters.
I see you, and you are beautiful because you never give up. You’re beautiful because you allow yourself to feel the highs and the lows, and accept that life comes with both.
I see you, but it’s time for you to see yourself, the way the rest of us see you.
You are more than enough, and your depths do not make you hard to love. They make you even more worthy of love. And it all starts with the love you give yourself.
I see you, the world hasn’t been kind to you.. but I will. I see you, because in you, I see me.
And I want you to know that you are not alone.."
B. Vigil
Art: Nick Fedaeff
Something True
SILENCE IS THE BETRAYAL OF LOVE.-
"True Love Requires Honest Conversations"
Love is not just about grand gestures, butterflies, and stolen kisses under the stars. It’s about showing up, even when it’s hard. It’s about having the courage to say, "This hurt me," instead of bottling up your emotions out of fear of causing a fight.
A healthy relationship isn’t defined by the absence of conflict—it’s defined by how two people navigate it. No relationship is without its challenges, but what truly matters is how you handle them together. Do you communicate openly, or do you let silence build walls between you? Do you approach differences with the goal of understanding, or do you bury them beneath forced smiles and unspoken resentment?
When you love someone, you don’t stay silent about the things that matter to you. You don’t hold back your emotions just to maintain an illusion of harmony. You speak your truth because your relationship deserves honesty. Suppressing your feelings doesn’t make them disappear—it turns them into invisible wounds that grow deeper with time. What starts as a small irritation can slowly evolve into something that pulls you apart, and by the time you realize it, the distance feels impossible to close.
Love thrives in vulnerability. It takes strength to express when you’re hurt. It takes courage to say, "I need more from you." It’s not about blaming or accusing—it’s about wanting to grow together, to be better for each other.
But love also requires a safe space for honesty. If you constantly feel like you have to tiptoe around your emotions, if you’re afraid of how your partner will react when you express your feelings, then that’s not love—that’s fear. And fear has no place in a relationship built on mutual respect and understanding.
A true partner will listen. They won’t shut down or dismiss you. They won’t make you feel guilty for feeling the way you do. Instead, they will lean in, hear you, and work with you to find a solution. Because when you love someone, their feelings matter. Their pain matters. Their happiness matters.
If your partner brushes off your concerns, invalidates your emotions, or refuses to communicate, then the real problem isn’t the disagreement—it’s the lack of care. Love is about wanting to understand your person, even when it’s uncomfortable. It’s about choosing to sit down and say, "Let’s figure this out together."
And if someone truly loves you, they won’t let your feelings go unheard. They won’t make you feel like you’re asking for too much just because you crave emotional connection. They won’t get defensive every time you express a need. Because love isn’t about being right—it’s about choosing each other, even in the difficult moments.
So if you love someone, don’t let the fear of confrontation hold you back. Speak your heart. Let them in. Because the strongest relationships aren’t built on perfection—they’re built on two people who are willing to have the hard conversations, who fight for each other even when it’s messy, and who never let silence take the place of love.
#HonestLove #CommunicationIsKey #HealthyRelationships #SpeakYourTruth #StrongerTogether #LoveThatLasts
Something True
" The deeper you are, the harder it becomes for you to find someone who wants to have a relationship with you.
You can go out on a lot of dates but at some point the relationship fails to progress any further and that is mainly because of the intensity of your depth. Not every man/woman is strong enough to handle a deep woman. Here’s why:
1. A deep woman asks deep questions. A deep woman will probe further into your life and ask questions that you may not be prepared to answer. Even on the first date, she will dig deeper and ask personal and philosophical questions – she will never enjoy a shallow conversation.
2. She is honest. Too honest – often blunt. A deep woman takes her integrity seriously and one thing she believes in is honesty. If you ask her anything, she will tell you the truth and she expects the same from you.
3. A deep woman knows what she wants. Or who she wants. A deep woman knows right away if she likes you and doesn’t need to date around or explore her other options to be sure of her feelings. Her heart only beats for a special few people and she knows them right away.
4. She wants a deep relationship. She wants long conversations about your life, she wants to hear stories about your past, she wants to understand your pain and she wants to add value to your life. She wants a real relationship that goes beyond going out and having fun.
5. A deep woman is not afraid of intimacy. She is not afraid of getting closer or risking getting hurt in the process. She doesn’t think it will entrap her freedom or make her vulnerable. Her depth and intimacy go hand in hand and she will always cherish the beauty of intimacy in relationships.
6. A deep woman sees through you. She can see who you really are and what makes you vulnerable. She is not the one to hold back from pointing out what she sees in you or how well she can read you. Even though it makes you uncomfortable, she wants you to know that she understands you and that you can be yourself around her.
7.This kind of woman craves consistency. She gets turned off by inconsistency or flaky behavior. She desires a strong connection and a solid bond and she knows that consistency is the foundation of that bond. A deep woman will not participate in the dating games.
8. A deep woman is intense. She may be slightly intimidating because she brings intensity to everything she does. Her emotions are intense and so are her thoughts. She will never be indifferent about things that matter to her – not everyone is strong enough to handle her intensity.
9. This kind of woman only knows how to love deeply. If you can’t love her deeply, she will walk away. She doesn’t know how to casually date someone she’s really into or be friends with someone she has feelings for. A deep woman knows when someone can’t meet her halfway and she will slowly detach herself from anyone who is not willing to give her the deep love she is looking for.
10. A deep woman won’t wait for you. She will not wait for you to make up your mind or watch you be hesitant about her. She is strong and passionate and will not waste her emotions on someone who doesn’t appreciate their depth. Even though she is looking for a special kind of love, a deep woman is not afraid of being on her own."
Something Blue
"I want to work this out with you.
I don't want to find you in another universe. I don't want to meet you in a parallel galaxy, in the afterlife, or at another time.
I don't want you to be my what-if, my greatest love that got away, or my right-person-wrong time.
I don't want to spend my days searching for a love like yours. I do not want to give my heart to anyone else. I do not want to begin again, get to know a soul again, and pour out my all again.
I want to work this out with you. I want my poetries to be about your entirety. I want my future to be filled with ours. I want my years to be yours.
I want to argue, make up, and be close to you. I want to share silence, buy groceries, and build a home with you. I want to trace stars, reach dreams, and share victories with you.
Heaven and parallel universes are not promised. I only have this one chance. And my love, I want us to end up in this lifetime."
— Aaron Arciaga
— Artwork: ggoruvi
Letters to AP
So now what...?
The stoic silence...? AGAIN???
The power moves again...
Why???
I guess you still choose the love of power over the power of love.
Is it just me...?
Should I be blushing?
Over the glorification of the cowardly ghosting....?
The "stoic" thing to do... Oh come on!
Oh man!
What an age to be alive in...
The manipulation...
I pulled my beating heart out of my chest for you...
You realise that, right?
You know what? Nevermind.
You do you.
Whatever floats your boat.
Sorry for the inconvenience of loving you.
It will never happen again.
Terrible fate, I understand... Yada Yada.
Find better.
All the best to you.
Something True
"The world is obsessed with technique—an endless pursuit of the right moves, the perfect rhythm, the secret formula for pleasure. Advice columns dissect the mechanics, self-help books promise better performance, and yet, in the quiet aftermath, many still feel something is missing.
Because the truth—the unspoken, inconvenient, beautifully messy truth—is that 'good' sex has never been about technique. It has never been about precision, prowess, or choreography. Good sex is about 'connection'—a resonance so deep that the body becomes merely an instrument for something infinitely more profound.
Society has reduced sex to an act—something to be perfected, performed, and measured. But performance is inherently external; it exists for an audience, for approval, for a result. And therein lies the problem: great sex is not about looking good, 'sounding' right, or even eliciting the most dramatic reactions.
It is about presence. The ability to be 'with' someone in a way dissolves pretense. The courage to be 'seen' beyond the physical and scripted roles of giver and receiver. When sex is stripped of ego—when it becomes a space of deep surrender rather than controlled execution—it transforms from an act into an 'experience.'
Bodies communicate in ways words never can. A lingering touch, the rhythm of breath, the way two energies meet and merge—these subtleties shape the true essence of intimacy. And yet, without an emotional connection, even the most skilled touch remains hollow, a beautifully wrapped gift with nothing inside.
Passion is not found in technique; it is found in trust. It is the electricity of feeling 'chosen,' not just in the moment but in the soul-deep recognition that says, 'I see you, I feel you, I am here with you.'
Sex, at its most profound, is an act of 'vulnerability.' To be physically naked is one thing; to be emotionally naked is another entirely. It requires the willingness to relinquish control, dissolve barriers, and invite another into the sacred space of an unguarded being.
This is why emotional connection matters more than physical prowess—when there is trust, safety, and an 'energetic surrender,' the body follows effortlessly. No technique can replace the intensity of a touch that carries love, reverence, and presence.
It is easy to confuse physical pleasure with emotional fulfillment. The body responds to stimuli; that is biology. But the soul craves something deeper that lingers long after the physical sensations fade.
Making love is not about intensity; it is about 'depth.' It is about moving beyond the body’s immediate gratification into a space where time dissolves, two energies intertwine, and love—not performance—is the guiding force.
Good sex can be forgotten. 'True intimacy' imprints itself onto the soul.
So, how do you know if you are having 'good' sex?
Not by the noises, the endurance, or the practiced techniques. But by the 'feeling.' Do you leave the experience more connected, more alive, more seen? Or do you feel something was taken, missing, or merely 'done' rather than 'shared'?
The secret to unforgettable intimacy has never been in the hands or the hips—it has always been in the 'heart.'
Because when sex is an extension of love, it transcends the physical. It becomes art. Worship. Alchemy.
And no technique in the world can match that. "
Katie Kamara
[Art: Mounir Khalfouf]
Something True
" Perhaps it's not just physical desire you're feeling ...
it's a longing for human touch, genuine affection, intimacy, and meaningful connection.
Your heart craves more than fleeting passion; it yearns for mental stimulation, non-sexual warmth, honest conversations, and unfiltered vulnerability.
What you truly seek is a profound bond where masculine and feminine energies harmonise effortlessly.
It's not merely about someone sharing your bed; it's about someone who touches the depths of your soul, ignites your inner fire, and sees you for who you truly are.
The soul knows its truth and its worth—and it will never settle for anything less than the richness, depth, and fulfilment it deserves."
✒️ Himmat Singh
Τρίτη 4 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Something True
"Έναν άνθρωπο τον καταλαβαίνεις καλά από τον τρόπο που φεύγει από τη ζωή σου, όχι από τον τρόπο που έρχεται. Κ αυτό το φευγιό το θυμάσαι για πάντα.
Την τελευταία κουβέντα, τον τελευταίο καφέ, το τελευταίο βλέμμα. Αυτά θυμόμαστε. Μπορεί να μη θυμάσαι πια πώς γνωριστήκατε. Πάντα, όμως, θα θυμάσαι πώς γίνατε κ πάλι ξένοι...."
Talking about Rude Awakenings
The manipulative lies during the persuit
The Deception
Is and forever will be, both unforgivable and unforgiven.
Oh NEVER again.-
Goodbye Lovelife.
Δευτέρα 3 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Something Precious
"I fought for it countless times
before I finally let go.
I tried to understand everything—
over and over—
even when it made no sense,
until I could no longer hold on.
Perhaps,
after all the struggles,
my heart simply grew tired of waiting.
Then one day,
I woke up and realized
that I, too,
deserve to be understood,
to be fought for,
and to be loved."
Κυριακή 2 Φεβρουαρίου 2025
Something True
"It takes courage to rest and play in a world where exhaustion is a status symbol." - Brené Brown
ARTIST: Michael Parkes - "Dragonfly Deva"
Something True
Masculine men SHOULD be dominant leaders.
Nah…
Deep integrated masculinity can be intuited by touching the word “Gentleman”.
Gentle-Man.
A man who is gentle.
Yet this does not mean a pushover.
This does not mean a simp.
This does not mean a man who is passive.
A gentleman leads, yet he leads with attunement.
Attunement is a sensitivity to her.
Sensitivity as in being of the senses.
He senses her, he senses her needs and her desires…
He senses what will take the intimacy deeper, what will light her on fire…
When he gets really good at this, he can sense her body and her heart even before her own mind can.
That’s when he takes her further than she could ever go on her own.
Yet he does all of this without neglecting or compromising himself.
And that’s what every feminine woman wants.
Replace the word 'dominance' with 'attunement' and you'll get a sense of what healthy masculine leadership is about.
- Damien Bohler
Something True
Κάθε άντρας εύχεται να είχε μια καλή γυναίκα δίπλα του, αλλά αυτό που πολλοί δεν συνειδητοποιούν είναι ότι οι γυναίκες με καλή καρδιά έρχονται με αληθινά συναισθήματα. Νιώθουν βαθιά. Αγαπούν ειλικρινά.
Είναι απίστευτα στοργικές και παθιασμένες ρίχνοντας όλη τους την ψυχή στους ανθρώπους που τους ενδιαφέρουν.
Οι καλές γυναίκες είναι βαθιά πιστές, αλλά η απαλή τους καρδιά σημαίνει ότι μπορούν επίσης να απογοητευτούν, να αναστατωθούν ή να συγκινηθούν εύκολα όταν τα πράγματα είναι στραβά.
Δεν είναι αδυναμία - είναι επειδή νοιάζονται τόσο πολύ.
Οι πιο πολλές στιγμές μαζί τους είναι γεμάτες ευτυχία, αρκεί να νιώθουν σιγουριά και ασφάλεια, να βλέπουν την ειλικρίνεια στα μάτια σου.
Μπορεί να είναι δύσκολο αν έμαθες να κρύβεις τα αισθήματά σου ή να μη δένεσαι, να ξεφεύγεις με μικρά ψέματα και να κάνεις το δικό σου αλλά ένα πράγμα είναι σίγουρο: όταν μια καλή γυναίκα σε αγαπάει, θα σου δώσει ένα είδος αγάπης που είναι σπάνιο και πολύτιμο.
Είναι το είδος της αγάπης που δεν θα βρεις πουθενά αλλού.
Είναι σπάνιος θησαυρός.
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Synaptic Bloom
My world feels a little quieter in '25...
I wholeheartedly hope he's doing well...
I hope his world is filled with color and love and sunlight and everything beautiful...
Picture made with Chat gpt.
Today's poem 🌠
Τίτος Πατρίκιος ~ Ελπίδα 🤍
Από την πρόσφατη συλλογή «Ο δρόμος και πάλι» @kichli_publishing
Παρασκευή 31 Ιανουαρίου 2025
Πέμπτη 30 Ιανουαρίου 2025
Something True
Αφού ο κόσμος τούτος
είναι κατώτερος από την καρδιά μας..
Να πλάσουμε κόσμο δικό μας,
στο μπόι της καρδιάς μας,
όπως εμείς τον βλέπουμε:
Φανταστικό, ανάερο,
απόλυτα δικό μας, απόρθητο.
Νίκος Καζαντζάκης
Something True
"Δε με τρομάζει η μοναξιά. Δε με τρομάζει να φύγει κάποιος από τη ζωή μου ακόμη κι αν τον αγαπώ. Με τρομάζει το ψέμα. Η υποκρισία. Να μην ξέρω σε ποιόν δίνω την καρδιά μου. Να μην είμαι σίγουρη με ποιόν κοιμάμαι τα βράδια. Με τρομάζει να μένει κάποιος για άλλους λόγους εκτός από την αγάπη. Οι άνθρωποι που κρύβουν την αλήθεια από το φως και γίνονται χειριστικοί. Με τρομάζει να μένει κάποιος μαζί μου επειδή βολεύτηκε. Με πειράζει να με χρησιμοποιούν και να με περνάνε για ηλίθια. Προτιμώ ένα άδειο μαξιλάρι παρά ένα όμορφο ψέμα. Κοιμάμαι πιο ήσυχη τα βράδια."
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