THE EXISTENCE OF TRAUMA DOES NOT INVALIDATE OUR EMOTION. OUR EMOTION STILL IS VERY VALID AND TRUE. Trauma is just one aspect of the life we have successfully lived through. It should be handled tenderly as it is very intimate.
I do not believe that the trauma triggered as a response to a specific behavior indicates inauthentic emotion. I also do not believe that in order to be loved back, an individual should be completely over their traumas.
On the contrary, in a world of continuous evolution we all have the capacity - in any stage of our journey in life - to love authentically, the very same way we deserve to be loved back.
Because, evolution never ends and it's always going to be something! It's always going to be something! It doesn't matter!
If love is not unconditional and flowing purely
Then it is nothing.
THAT kind of conditional love forms trauma bonds.
We should always see trauma as another chance to reach a better resolution.
Life is simultaneous scripts running beside each other.
Emotions are not as unreliable as some people think.
When one has decided to live from their heart, emotions are the most reliable indicators of the path that needs to be followed.
When it comes to trauma, we need to stop looking at the tree and start acknowledging the forest... Meaning, although most people pretend to have everything figured out, that is not the truth. We are all in this together. Trauma is spreading among us to be recognized and healed, and although healing could come in many forms
Unconditional Love is the best of them all.
If this triggered trauma is my flaw,
Then tell me what your's is, because I already know you have one - or more - and guess what...
I still love you.
So, who cares?
Yes, this existence can be heavy sometimes. It has peaks and valleys.
The real question is :
Do you recognize me, behind all of these things - as I do - , or have you decided that these obstacles are more important than the very real probability of true love and acceptance that has been the only constant through it all ...
And that is a very real decision that a person has got to make by themselves...
Meanwhile, Love keeps existing... 🌠
We deserve to experience love and be loved now. Right this minute! Exactly as we are!!! And the people who understand that love can heal better than anything...
Those are my kind of people...
If the narrative changes, the nervous system gets to adapt into a new norm... And when that environment is consistent, then new connections are formed in our brain and our body's memory gains new information! A new idea is born: "Life can also be tender and light and beautiful and safe and fun! Not all people are out there to hurt others! Some come to love them, too.And - Oh my God! - some come to stay!!! 😱😳🥰"
I am a firm believer that we do not meet the people in our life by accident. But it is always up to us how we respond to another's wound. Will we help heal it through love, or will we deepen it through triggering it further by strengthening the blow...
See, trauma has two jobs, it is a teacher of two seperate classes :
-The first class carries the trauma and is trying to resolve it.
- The second class acknowledges another's pre-existing trauma - searches to see in what capacity it may relate to them and decides who they will become because of it as a response.
How we treat other people's trauma says a lot about who we are, doesn't it?
In conclusion, whether we are willing to admit this very simple principle, or not, none of us will ever be perfect. Perfection does not exist. I can assure you that none of us will ever reach it - and for a very good reason : EVOLUTION.
So, we can let trauma block our view, out of fear not to be swept in by it's rushing waters - meaning we are not ready to face our own that has been successfully dormant - or we can jump in and love each other, regardless...
You deserve to be loved... NOW.
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