"A man's biggest struggle is understanding how he can meet his partner's emotional needs and how important it is for her to feel safe enough to open up and share her feelings.
To do this, a man must practice the art of being fully present in her presence. One of the reasons that we men struggle with this is that we learn through action, so sitting still and just listening without doing anything is quite difficult for us.
As men, we are solution-focused. We use our minds to understand things and then resolve them. We want to fix it.
The problem is that as soon as we begin to think of a solution, we are in our heads, and we disconnect emotionally. We stop being emotionally present in her presence and stop listening empathetically.
What is empathy? It is feeling, in your heart, what the other person feels and not being afraid of what will happen in you as a result.
If something has happened to your woman that makes her feel scared, insecure, angry, or sad, do not withdraw yourself because you do not want to feel emotions that might make you feel weak or uncomfortable. Instead, embrace those feelings and share that experience with her.
Share her tears, comfort her, and make energetic contact with her so that she feels that you are with her now, that she does not have to feel alone, and that she is safe in your arms.
Then imagine that you pour your masculine energy into her with your touch, your eyes, your voice, and your heart.
Imagine that it soothes and comforts her, that you provide inner peace by giving her your strength and confidence.
Imagine what your love will do for her in those moments.
Imagine the enormous confidence that you thereby build in your relationship.
And, last but not least, imagine knowing that you are her safe place - that your presence is both her hiding place and her harbor."
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